“Don’t Say Bhaiya”: Cab Driver’s Guidelines for Passengers Spark Social Media Debate
“Don’t Say Bhaiya”: Cab Driver’s Guidelines for Passengers Spark Social Media Debate on Respect and Language Use
A Reddit user recently shared a set of guidelines posted in a cab that emphasized respectful behavior towards the driver, including instructions such as closing doors gently and avoiding the term “bhaiya” (meaning “brother”). The post ignited a discussion about the appropriateness of using such terms with drivers, with users expressing varied opinions on cultural norms and regional differences.
The Reddit user recounted their experience, noting, “I booked a cab, and the driver had posted some guidelines in the vehicle. What do you think about these rules?” The instructions reportedly read: “You are not the owner of the cab. The person driving the cab is the owner. Speak politely and show respect. Close the door slowly. Put your attitude in your pocket; don’t show it to us because you aren’t paying extra. Don’t say ‘bhaiya’ to us. Note: Don’t ask to drive fast—be on time.”
The post prompted extensive discussions on social media. While some users supported the guidelines, especially those advocating for mutual respect, others questioned the driver’s preference to avoid being called “bhaiya.” One user remarked, “As long as it’s about mutual respect, it’s perfectly fine. Things like closing the door softly and not disturbing the driver are basic manners.”
However, some were puzzled by the driver’s objection to the term. “If he doesn’t want to be called ‘bhaiya,’ he should have provided his name,” one user suggested. Another added, “I always thought ‘bhaiya’ or ‘didi’ were safe bets. Didn’t know some people don’t like it.”
One user offered a perspective on why some drivers may feel uncomfortable with the term. “In Himachal, where I’m from, people from UP, Bihar, and nearby states are often called ‘bhaiya.’ That’s why some might take offense. In Punjab, too, ‘bhaiya’ can be used to refer to someone perceived as untidy,” they explained.
The conversation then took a humorous turn, with users proposing alternative terms. “Maybe ‘driver uncle’ would work,” one joked. Another suggested, “Call him ‘PILOT’ and maybe he’ll fly the cab for you.”
Amid light-hearted suggestions and cultural insights, the debate highlighted how language and respect can vary across different regions, sparking broader reflections on social interactions with service providers.
