‘Aaram Se Maara Usko…’: Dad’s Calm Parenting Goes Viral After 6-Year-Old’s First Bullying Incident
‘Aaram Se Maara Usko...’: Dad’s Calm Parenting Goes Viral After 6-Year-Old’s First Bullying Incident
Father explains responsibility and kindness without scolding, wins praise for healthy parenting approach
Bullying remains a serious issue in schools, but one father’s calm and thoughtful response to his six-year-old son’s first act of bullying has gone viral for all the right reasons. Instead of scolding or punishing, the father used the moment as a teaching opportunity — to explain responsibility, kindness, and the difference between being a hero and a bully.
In the video uploaded on Instagram, the father gently questioned his son about hitting a classmate. When asked why, the boy admitted another friend had asked him to. On further probing, he confessed the girl had done nothing wrong and added, “Aaram se maara usko (I hit her gently).”
The father calmly explained, “You should have made your friend understand that hitting a classmate is wrong.” He also addressed another complaint — that his son had taken the girl’s eraser despite having his own.
The father reminded him, “If you like something, we will get it for you, but never take what belongs to someone else.”
Emphasising choices, the father told his son, “You can either be the hero or the villain. Do you want to be the villain?”
The boy responded, “Hero.” He then explained what bullying meant: “If 3-4 kids start hitting you, that’s bullying. Do you want to be a bully?” The boy shook his head. Finally, the parents accompanied him to school to apologise.
The video has resonated widely online. One user wrote, “This is healthy parenting.” Another said, “Glad he wasn’t scolded or yelled at, just guided through self-reflection.”
Many praised the father’s patience, logic, and compassion in addressing the issue.
The National Commission for Protection of Child Rights (NCPCR) estimates that 42 per cent of Indian school students have experienced bullying, particularly during middle and high school, where peer pressure and hormonal changes strongly influence behaviour.
